My Life Purpose

If you recall, a while back I ask if you had already found your life's purpose. This came from my own realisation at that time that I had not found it yet. If you can't recall go over here to check it What is your life's purpose?.

I just started working on a new product and whilst breaking down the work I need to do to make the product a reality, remembered that I had never posted, as promised, my own life's purpose.

So without further ado, here it is for all to see.

My Life's Purpose

I Paulo Duarte, hereby declare before others and, more importantly, before myself, that my life purpose is to be:

- Always true to myself and others no matter how difficult, hard and painful it might be
- Someone that makes a positive difference in every person I encounter in life
- A caring, supportive and challenging friend
- Grateful for all I have and for all those around me
- The best I can be and never accept second best
- A successful and profitable Entrepreneur & Businessman

By doing:

- Studying and continuously learning about the human being and their interactions with others
- Learning about the way the physical body works. Always striving to find the best training and nutritional practices to best develop the human body to excellence!
- Helping and empowering others to learn and grow to be the best they can be
- Study the mindset and how best to use it for our own benefit to achieve all our goals
- Creating a Physical Excellence Transformation Center where Body and Mind work together towards the same goal, making dreams reality!
- Contributing with money and time to help others achieve their own success

So that in the future I may have:

- A happy, fulfilled and enjoyable life
- A beautiful, caring and supporting woman by my side that loves me and wants to be with me because of who I am, rather than what I have!
- Social recognition for all I done and am doing to help others improve themselves
- Financial rewards to allow me to make my dream life a Reality!
- Enough money to help others and be charitable and grateful for all!

Signed:

Paulo Duarte

As usual I would welcome your comments on this and on your own life's purpose. If you need help or direction of finding your life's purpose get in touch.

So you want to lose weight?!?!

You have made the decision to lose weight, and as such you started to evaluate your options, on how to spend your hard earned cash and what to do. And there it was the answer...

A Fat Burning Magic Pill

You will go and buy this new wonder pill that is coming in the UK market tomorrow, you will take it as prescribed and as magic you will lose all the weight! Fantastic solution for minimum effort, it is truly wonderful is it not?

And then suddenly...

You woke up, and realised that all was just a dream, or better yet a nightmare! Sorry to sound sarcastic, but if you are hoping that a magic wonder pill will make you shed all the fat you have with no effort then, my friend you are sadly mistaken.

From what I read and heard on the news, this new magic pill, as every single one out there in the market, is recommended as part of a calorie controlled diet and exercise so it to maximise the results.

Also it works by making part of the food bypass your system completely, thus not absorbing part of the fats you eat (together with proteins and carbs as well). So is this what you want to rely on? Is this the solution that you are going to go for and part with your money?

Is this really it?

Well I don't want to rain on anyone's parade, but I don't think so. The key to losing fat and keeping it off is not a magic pill but some hard work and controlling what you put in your mouth, together with a motivated mindset to achieve your goal.

I am afraid that drugs don't work...

By all means spend your money and rely on the drugs to get you there, or put some effort and hard graft into it, work out with weights, do interval training and control your diet. That will get you there, it might take awhile but once there you will look and feel much better! Use the money you would spend on these drugs on a personal trainer, a coach, or even a nutritionist.

These professionals will help you!

They will help you more than these drugs and what they will teach you and show you will be there long after this latest magic pill disappears from the mainstream media. If you are looking for nutritional help I highly recommend the revolutionary Eat Stop Eat Programme.

If you need help with training to burn fat efficiently a programme that highly recommend is Craig Ballantyne Turbulence Training with even a bodyweight only selection of exercises if you don't want to use weights from the onset.

There are many options out there

And most or all, are better and more long lasting than magic wonder pills like this last one. Your choice, your life, your money... Your decision!

A different post today - Effects of Stress

My sister called me on Sunday...

My Father had had another mild heart problem on Friday and was now in hospital. They have decided that now is the time to have a triple heart bypass, as the heart is still strong enough to cope with surgery, instead of waiting until he as another episode.

Luckily this time was a mild one...

But it was a warning nonetheless. Ever since my Dad had his first heart attack that I have always been aware of the possible causes of it and how you should do your utmost to avoid them.

With my Father the main cause of his condition was stress.

Yes he was slightly overweight when it first happened, but we wasn't one for excesses, like all traditional Portuguese men, he had his glass (or two) of wine at dinner, and our food is slightly on the heavy side, but we knew it was stress.

His stress levels were sky high...

Was working a "normal" 9 to 5 job in a Directorial position and 3 evenings a week he used to teach at a Secondary school. Teaching was his passion, still is, and he couldn't give it up. His relationship with my Mum wasn't the best as well, and they end up divorcing shortly after I came to England.

I remember the day

Of his first heart attack. It was one of the rare evenings that he was actually at home. My Mum and my Sister weren't home for some reason that night and he started feeling bad, pins and needles in his left arm as well as numbing sensation and find it difficult to breathe. I called the ambulance and off he went to the hospital.

Weirdly enough

At the time it was the best thing that happened to him. He left his 9 to 5 job, changed his diet completely, started doing regular mild exercise and looked like he was into a full recovery.

Whenever he got into a stressful situation

Things got worse. Since that first one back in 1992 he still had another two mild ones and now this one, makes it three. He had slipped back into a more "letting go" type of lifestyle and this might be his wake up call, probably is final one.

On a final note...

Thankfully he is in good hands and everything will be ok in a few days/ weeks time, but the main message here to remember is to do your utmost to remove all the possible causes from your life...

Change your life around if it needs to

Do some exercise, eat healthly, don't drink alcohol excessively, if your job is too stressful get a new one, if that is not possible, make sure you have coping techniques to release that stress, enjoy your relationships and tell people you love about your issues and don't keep things back...

You only have one life, so make the most of it!!!!

5 Key Factors That Helped me Lose Weight

12^th September 1992, that is the day my life changed! I took the decision to come to England to study, and that was the day I arrived here. After almost 17 years, I am delighted that I took that decision, still living in England and am very happy. But that is not the reason why I am writing this piece today.

Today I am going to tell you about another day...

Another day that radically changed my life, the day that after many months of being called fat, chubby or “Sancho” (my nickname from my housemates as per Sancho Panca, D.Quixote’s loyal servant) I decided to join a gym.

But, this was a different gym...

This gym on the surface looked like any other commercial gym. Had cardio machines, weight machines, a small free weights area, sauna, etc, but there was a big difference, the trainers there were people that loved training and loved to help training others.

And the transformation begun...

Under the guidance, you can even call it mentorship, of Paul, the main trainer there, I managed to lose around 4 stone in weight, my jeans size went down from Size 40 jeans to size 34, my self confidence sky rocketed to levels that I never had felt possible and life was great, and all in 9 months!

For the first time in my life...

I felt absolutely fantastic! After over 8 or so years of being a chubby kid and not feeling comfortable in my own body, I felt great. I would go to the shops and be able to buy normal sizes. I finally would go out at night and be super confident with the ladies as well!

So, how come this change occurred?

Well looking back I truly believe that there were 5 key factors why this happened and I know if these weren’t in place at the time my story would have been very different.

1. Social Support

First and foremost, if it wasn’t for my housemate Luis, I would have never taken the plunge to actually go to the gym. He was a regular gym goer back home in Portugal and he wanted a partner to go to the gym. He became my main “source” of social support, giving me encouraging words and “pushing” me to go to the gym when I didn’t felt like it!

I became accountable...

Having him there made me accountable not only to him as my gym partner but also to myself! Even though I was the only one that was capable of changing my body, having someone there to keep me in check helped me in achieving my goal ten times faster.

2. Guidance

As soon as I joined the gym, Paul was assigned as my trainer. Paul took all my measurements, weighted me, and more importantly, asked me questions about my lifestyle, my nutrition, my physical activity and pretty much every aspect he felt influenced my situation at the time.

After our first session he designed a training plan that we reviewed every 6 to 8 weeks to make any necessary adjustments, always taking in consideration my end goal!

My very first goal...

That was the very first time I set a goal with some “meat” in it. It wasn’t a goal “just because I want to”. He actually asked me what were the benefits I saw of living on that goal, and why I wanted it so much. I am not ashamed to admit it that girls featured highly on the whys J!

Set goals for what you want to achieve and it will make it much easier for you to achieve it!

3. Nutrition

With his help I started a food journal. For one week he asked me not to change my diet and just write down every little thing I ate during the day. At the end of that week we sat down and went through it all.

Blimey that was “eyes opening stuff”...

I was amazed, to say the least, at the amount of, at a lack of a better word, crap that I was consuming in a daily basis. Not only the quantity but also the quality of my food was deplorable, even though I cooked every night, during the day at Uni I would have pizzas or burgers from the student union bar or bean and beef stews from the Caribbean Center in town.

I changed all that...

From that point onwards I started to have a lot of salads and grilled meat or fish, at night. I would prepare my lunch to take to college, which would be home-made sandwiches or salads and fruit. Reduced the consumption of pastas, potatoes and rice and started having a proper breakfast with eggs and toast instead of coffee and air!

Learning “how to eat” was one of my biggest lessons!

Take notice of what you put in your body, make changes to natural foods and start having a balanced diet.

4. Mindset

Once I made the decision to change and go to the gym, I was half way there to success, I realised what I wanted to achieve and how I could achieved it. I stopped making excuses to why I couldn’t do it and put a plan of action in place and followed it.

I felt empowered...

And every time I had a off day I would re-focus on why I wanted to change and how much I had achieved by all the small changes that I made into my life that I knew then that I would never be “chubby” again.

5. Journal

I started a journal, at the time on a notebook. Every month I would weight myself. Every other week would take measurements. I would keep track of the bad foods I ate over the weeks. I knew how much I could lift at all the various exercises and which exercises I was doing at any particular time.

By keeping track...

Of all the variables in my life I was always able to know what was working or, more importantly, not working so I could change and adjust to achieve my goal. It was also a great motivation tool to see how much I had improved in such a small period of time!

Until today I had never realized

I had never realized that way back then in 1992 I already knew the secret to change and to achieve my dream body, and the factors that helped me lose weight then are the same factors that can help anyone achieve their goals, whatever they are!

Remember them and you are on your way:

- Doing it on your own is possible but harder than doing it with someone else. Whoever they are, your best friend, your partner, a personal trainer or a coach, will help you get there faster!

- Set goals for what you want to achieve and it will make it much easier for you to achieve it!

- Take notice of what you put in your body, make changes to natural foods and start having a balanced diet.

- Once you decide you are ready to change, and start taking action, you are half way there to success.

- Keep an updated journal to keep track of your progress and to motivate you to achieve your goal!

Hope this post was of some assistance to you in your quest to achieve your goals.

All the best,

Paulo

Yesterday at Euston Station...

I went to London yesterday for the monthly meeting with Dan Bradbury's mentorship group and on arrival at Euston Station, I had a bit of time so went outside for a bit to read my book in the Sun.

While outside...

I noticed this homeless man walking through the crowd looking at everyone but not approaching any. Suddenly when he saw me he proceeded to walk towards me.

When he got close...

He apologise for disturbing me but he was hungry and asked me if I could give help him by giving some money so he could eat. Without another thought in my mind I emptied my pocket and gave him all the money I had at the time. It wasn't much, probably £3 maximum.

His look of gratitude...

Smile and thank you, he gave me was all that I needed. He went to the nearest food stall and ordered his food. I felt really good and happy that I was able to help and proceeded to the meeting.

On my return from the meeting...

Around 530pm, in the same place, another homeless lady approached me and asked me for some money as she was trying to get the bus fare to go to the nearest shelter, where she could spend the night. Again I got all the change I had in my pocket and gave it to her (luckily I had withdrawn some earlier from the cash machine).

It was only £3 or £4...

But the smile and thank you I got from her made me feel fantastic. It is moments like this that make me truly appreciate what I have and feel grateful for all. Not for one moment I had any doubts in helping these two people.

Amongst the crowd...

For some reason they both picked me to ask for help, don't know if it was karma or if they sensed that I would help them, but I am delighted that they did and if I made a difference in their lifes, albeit as small as it was then it was all worthwhile.

Despite how difficult...

Your life is at the moment, spare a thought for those that are in worst situations than you, be grateful, kind and generous. You can make a difference with your actions, start today if you haven't already...

What is your life’s purpose?

What is your life’s purpose?

As I lay in bed last night unable to sleep I started wondering again...

What is my life’s purpose?

What I do for a living is a tag, a label, something I gave myself or others used to describe what I do as a job, profession or my work, but what I truly want to know is what is my Life’s Purpose? Do you know what it is? Do you know your life’s purpose?

I have been asking myself this question for awhile...

What am I in this earth for? I am 35 years old, almost 36, and do I really know what I want? I have my goals that I truly want to achieve. My business goals, my physical goals, goals that will make my life better overall, but what are goals if not a stepping stone in the path to your life’s purpose?

If your goals don’t have a true purpose

Then what is the point of having them in the first place? Until you truly define what is it that you are in this Earth for you will lack a sense of being and a sense of direction in your life!

I have a good life...

Have fantastic friends around me, amazing clients that I help achieve their goals and incredible and wonderful family that I love dearly... Yes I have my problems to resolve, don’t we all? But all in all my life is pretty good! But I do feel I need to find something that is missing that will probably add the meaning that I seeking for.

Watched a movie last night that made me think...

The movie in question was “Ghost Town”, if you have seen it, it probably made you think as well, if you haven’t is the story of a Dentist that “dies” for 7 minutes during a surgery and afterwards he can see ghosts that are in limbo... They are in limbo not because they have to resolve something before they can go to heaven, but because the ones that were left behind have to let them go...

So how does this movie made me think about my life?

Well when he helps the ghosts help their family friends “letting go” really touched me. I truly realised that I was here to help others. Helping others makes me feel truly alive and worth it to society. Even yesterday helped an old lady remove a pound coin from a trolley, nothing major I know, but the smile and the thank you I got truly made my day!

What is my life’s purpose?

Ultimately I want to help others... Help others achieve their goals and find their true path in life. Help others be happy and successful. Inspire others to achieve all they want to achieve. Teach what they need to learn and continuously learn from others as I meet them through their lives. I am still working on my purpose, and because it is so fresh in my mind, today I will finally find my true life purpose and post it here for all to see...

So, let me ask you something...

What is your life’s purpose? What are you in this earth for? Forget about the titles, tags and labels we will have been given by society and instead concentrate on what you want your life to be, why do you want it, how you going to get there and what will be your reward for truly living according to your ultimate purpose in life.

Do you know your life’s purpose?

Once you do, once you know the answer, all it will be clear, all your goals will be much clearer and easier to accomplish and achieve as you truly know where you are going to and why!

If you already know...

Then drop me a line to reigniteyourlife@googlemail.com as I would love to know what it is and how did you realise it in the first place...

House ownership and VALUES

I was reading the other day a piece about house ownership in the UK and the perceptions of the population in general the ownership of your own house.

One of the things that strikes me is how much owning a house is so important in the UK. That is usually a sign to you and others that you are doing well in life. I must I was "trapped" in the same thought.

In other countries, like Germany and Italy, owning your own house is not one of the main priorities of the population throughout their lifes. In Portugal for many years this wasn't as well. Now a lot of people there also want to "own" a house.

The fact that you don't actually own the house, until you paid it off completely doesn't seem to detract us to go and buy it. The fact that until the day the mortgage is paid off the mortgage provider actually owns the house doesn't stop us to take the plunge.

Similarly you end up paying almost double what you initially bought the house for with the compound interest. We tend to look at a house as an asset, but until is paid off it actually is a liability. I am currently finishing reading Robert Kiyosaki book "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" and thoroughly advise you to read it as well, as explains in simple terms assets and liabilities and how you can change your life around by bein "financially intelligent".

The fact of the matter is that this general mentality in the UK, and indeed in other countries as well, is that owning a house is part of the Values of the people born, or living, in that country. Is sometimes one the highest values most people have.

So where do you get your values from? I will enlighten you on my next post about that and how you can get better values to help on your success and happiness throughout life!

Until then, all the best,

Paulo